About Goodbyes...

     Such a profound and much said cliche. We've heard it so many times in the movies. "I hate goodbyes" or "I was never good at goodbyes". I would call it an irony myself. How can it be called "good-bye" when in most of the cases it is not "good" at all. Yet it is said so often. More often than it should be. In every day life we say goodbyes many times. Leaving from work, leaving the house, leaving the neighborhood. What is bothering my mind in this article though is the other way of saying goodbye. It's the goodbye used as a means of decision. The goodbye which brings an end to a situation. There is one common factor in goodbyes. Their severity and impact is variably dependent from the impact the "hellos" had in us in the first place.
     
     Either being a person or a situation, a goodbye means the end of something. The end of an era. The dark side of it means that you have to say goodbye to a happy or pleasant situation (let's face it, we never say goodbye when after a fight we leave the house furious banging the door behind us). It means that we have to forget, or at least make confront without these pleasant situations in the future. The goodbye is a final decision. A turning point. Good or bad a goodbye is usually the final frontier. It seems normal. But in retrospect it's hard for me to remember many times being said goodbye. And it's funny cause I've been abandoned many times in my whole life. Probably that's the downslide of a goodbye. The fact that it is final. Maybe it is in the human nature not to take terminal decisions. Maybe that's why we are not easily saying goodbye. Cause in the end, in our minds (and I guess only in there), we leave a tiny window open for reconciliation. True, goodbyes are bad like I said. But sometimes they are also needed. It has always been better to say goodbye and kill each doubt in the minds of others, than let them hanging from that thin thread of hope. Hah. A return from a final goodbye will always remain sweeter. Also true is that there are cases (most of the time) where there is no turning back from a goodbye. That's the whole purpose of it after all. The worst kind of goodbyes though is the ones never said with words, but meant on the inside, and experienced even deeper inside. The ones where separation is indeed final, but there is no words to justify it. In other words the silent deep hurting goodbyes.

     Strange as it may seem, there is also a bright side in goodbyes. Apart from signaling an end, a goodbye can also mean a new beginning. Likewise, as much we humans need the goodbyes, that much we also need the new beginnings. It would be impossible to start all over again if we did not have the power to goodbye the old situations. And it would surely be awkward too. Starting over and over new things and experiences without ending the previous. Without waving goodbye to the bad (or good) memories. 
   
     It really reminds me the circle of day and night. None can live while the other is still thriving. Yet if one the the two ruled completely then life would really be boring and strange. Goodbyes are like the day and night. Sometimes you have to say them and move on. Sometimes you have to hold back and reconsider. After all there is always the dawn and the sunset, where day and night become one!!!!